I’ve been struggling for the past couple of weeks on how to write this. BlogFest ended more than 3 weeks ago (how has it been that long?!?) and the lessons I learned there have taken a while to process.
The biggest one? To be unabashedly, unapologetically me! Yet even as I write that, I cringe a little.
Does that sound egotistical? Too focused on me, not enough on my readers? Is it rambling too much? Maybe I should make the post less serious….more serious? Are they going to get meaning out of reading this?
These are all things that go through my head, pretty much every time I write. And that is why the main message at BlogFest this year hit me so hard.
You see, I have a tendency to hide parts of myself, to smooth them over. To not dig too deep or show too much. And that isn’t what I want, not really.
I want for you to move forward on your journey with me to be there to support you.
Does that sound egotistical?
Possibly. But it’s also true. And I’ve struggled with the best way to do that. Because I was scared. I was scared to show you my faults, my struggles….Even my successes. When something wouldn’t go well I would try to gloss it over. When something went really well I would downplay it.
The first speaker at BlogFest was Petra Kolber. And while all of the speakers really helped me and gave me a lot of insights, Petra’s really hit me hard. Here are a few things that she shared and what they brought home to me.
Others connect with your faults, not your perfection. What they want to know is how you deal with those faults.
By glossing over my struggles, I help no one. I just make it harder to connect, harder for them to see how I traveled along my own journey.
Focus on passion, not perfection.
This is a constant struggle for me. Is this a good enough photo to share? What if I can’t write this post well enough? Maybe I just shouldn’t share it until I can do it better. But this means that it never gets shared. I am passionate about what I am sharing with you all. I need to allow that to be enough. To allow me to be enough.
Don’t wait for perfect.
That one really says it all. And while I still am hesitating with those same questions, I’m striving now to not wait for perfect.
“You can’t help the world if you don’t step forward.” – Sadie Nardini
“What is your driving core motivator? Things don’t just happen, you make them happen.” – Natalie Jill
Both of these made me admit something to myself. Something I don’t think I had ever said in a serious, non-self-depricating way.
What I want more than just about anything is to make a positive impact on others. To use my journey to help them along their own. To motivate, inspire, educate and cheer-lead my way into their lives so that they are better for having known me.
I want to make a difference to people. I want to make an impact on many people’s lives. On their health, their happiness…their entire well-being.
This isn’t really something I ever said seriously. I mean, who am I to hope to have that type of impact?
Well, that is something I’m still working on answering. But this year’s BlogFest and all of my amazing #SweatPink community has really pushed me forward on figuring it out!
(There will be a more lighthearted recap of all awesomeness that was BlogFest and IdeaWorld in a few days! But this year had a big emotional impact on me and I wanted to share that part first and foremost.)